I hope everyone of you using Social Networking sites must have received these Random Add requests from random people around...People that you don't know personally and wonder what might have made them send you this Friend Request..Upon digging, you find out that the person is a friend of a mutual friend of your's..sometimes the chain gets longer and longer...' a friend of a friend's friends's friends' fiance!!'...and so on.... I'm receiving these requests a lot these days..When I ask them back If I know them, the answer is interesting with "no but lets know each other"...or "Well not really, But I would really like to know you"...or " No but does it matter now? "or "Not at all but I bet you would love to know me, I'm too charming to resist!"..and these are just few sample answers that I have quoted here..the real list is really long..
But it did reminded me the time when The Cell-phone Revolution came in Pakistan with almost everybody purchasing a phone and then using it too...The usages were simple..people wanted to use their credit on unknown people..it was then that all the Female cell owners had the toughest time of their lives with "plz Friendship with me" messages...
We had a friend in Hostel who had this crazy fan who was a Pathan ( khan sab)..She had no idea how did he manage to have her number but he used to send her these short messages of Friendship requests and non-stop Misses-calls and Calls...and Guess what he said on Phone!!
"Baji Khuda ka wasta hum sy dosti kar lo khocha!" (Please be friends with me sister;p)
Now Imagine the misery of my friend! This was the time when our people were introduced to "The Cell -Phone anxiety"..which projected the youth as main target ...I , Once happened to talk to this young boy who uses to bother my Room-mate, he sounded to be a nice boy so I decided to give it a try and asked him why was he after my friend for no reason...what he said surprised me completely,,,He said Look , I have so many friends around me who have Telephonic Friendship with Girls and talk to them all the time..while I don't have any and when they gather in my room, they make fun of me by saying that no body offers me any ghass..hehe mean "koi mujay ghass nai dalta" means (no girl pays any attention to me) ..Anyway, this is how the new technology was taken at our side.Of-course things were settled down gradually.But now its the newest version of Highest invention of Information technology called Social networking that is on hit now.
My point here is , should we add these Strangers just like that?! I mean who are these people at the first place who send you these requests with little intimate follow up messages! (as my best friend says.."Oh kon loug ho tussi !") ..Is it truly the part of networking to know absolute strangers? I mean it could be risky ..You never know the intention of next person...you can never know what is he/she up to! I have come to know the stories where people not only misused the information that they gathered from their target's account but harmed them too..Remember how this thing works...No matter You have added that person or not,,if he is in your Friend's List, he can have access to all those photos and status messages that your friend has commented on by just clicking on the Notification he receives and there is this DOWNLOAD button too which works just fine!!
I have seen Teenager Girls using FB carelessly as they put their real and quite objectionable photos there...I bet their parent are unaware of their activities...they end up in trouble by having an unwanted stalker or some ex-Lover turned Blackmailer ..The question is whose duty is it to inform about the Dark side of the picture..I'm not concluding with "Its all dark out there"..all I'm saying is to highlight the Negative aspect of these new inventions too..Don't you think there should be Public Service messages about "safe usage" of social networking on National T.V? I have this very strict opinion of parent's responsibility about their kid's activities..as its them who put their kid in his private room with a Personal Computer, a Mobile phone and an Internet Connection at the first place.Kids are Kids after all, no matter how clever they sound to be or pretend to be, They need to be protected ! Its a combine duty of parents and society under the current shape of Social Infrastructure , They are our Future , we can't let them be on their own in the risky world of Social Networking.Can we?
Perhaps this video could explain my point in a more precise way!