I am left shocked and Speechless, Life is full of twists..bad things happen to people around us almost all the time.Sometimes we stop to console them and sometimes we continue with our Lives ignoring or avoiding or overlooking the misery of others.This is what Life is all about..we remind ourselves..But its only when someone very dear and near to you gets hurt when you stop there and then ..feel the pain at its best and find yourself all confused and messed up..don't know what to do! How to console that person.words,no matter, how wonderfully fabricated seem insufficient to match the level of your emotional connection with that one tragedy which has at its end someone close to your Heart..
Abida (named Aabi) is my childhood friend..we practically grew up together, went to same school and then to same college.I have all the best memories of my school/college life with her,She is everywhere in those shining, golden,beautiful memories.Sweet,Smart,Smiling and Elegant that she was! She had that particular style of thinking and talking that made us name her "miss Philospher"..God how recalling all those moments are making me all the more shaky and tense...
People say your childhood is the best time of your life..I always thought otherwise..and Considered my youth time as the best phase as we have all the energy and passion and free-will that one needs to run his/her life..But Now I realize that is true actually..Childhood surely is the best part of one's Life, As that is the time when you don't know what Life is planning for you,and IGNORANCE IS A BLISS...it surely and truly is..I remember how we used to joke about our Future Life..shadi,buchay and buchon kay buchay..LOL...and None of us knew what was stored for us in Future.
I moved to Lahore after my Graduation and unfortunately I was the only one from my Group who could manage studying further, all the other Friends had Permission problems or Financial issues.I got Disconnected with my Childhood Friends..all the Promises that we made to be always in touch faded away.I thought its natural ..when We move on..we leave people behind..and we find other people in our life.the cycle never stops..People come and People go.But I did maintain that Hello/Hi thing with them..and managed to have all the latest news about them.
It was Eid-ul-Fiter Last Year and I was informed that finally Aabi is engaged and getting married shortly after Eid..I got excited to hear the news as both of us.me and her were the only one in our childhood Group that were left single..all the other got married years ago..I decided to call her and forgot when I got busy doing other things..It kinda slipped from my mind until I got to talk to another Friend after 3 months, I asked her how it went with Aabi..how was the wedding and the broom and who else was there..she went quiet...
Then I learned that she never got married..as her Husband-to-be got killed in an Accident just a week before their wedding..I was too shocked to say anything..it was after three months that I got this news.tears began to form in the corner of my eyes..I couldn't say anything..she told me how tough the time has been for Aabi..and how she still continues with her single status..because she is tagged as "Munhoos" now...
Can you believe this?! She was the one with the Biggest Loss..and she was the one who was blamed for everything.I had her number in the next five minutes and gave her a call..I dint say anything..I just cried on phone and so did she..we dint need words to communicate..she knew how sorry I was to hear this and I knew how relieved she was to have me there.I dint say any word to console her.I couldn't .I just asked how it was going with her and she told me all the pinching, stupid little myths that made rounds after the tragedy ..that how the Ladies who came in their house to console them whispered about the "bad-Luck" that Aabi brought for their Fiancee^ .I remained with her in touch until now, She is much better now..still Single tho and Still Facing those Allegations..But a Lot Batter Of course.
The reason I have this in my mind now is because I heard this story about this girl living next to our Building..Her Fiancee had an accident just a week before and couldn't survive., I recalled it because I witnessed that Sheer Cruelty that I missed in Aabi's case being away from her then..the way those women were describing her "Miserable" and"Poor Soul" and then Blaming that Girl's "Nuhosut" for everything..
I was left Shocked and Speechless..I cried on my way home.It was for that girl or may be not..It was for my Friend too..I Realized what she must had been Through..and she still faces this..I cried for this Poor Girl Because now I know what She will have to Go through all her Life...We are not humans..are we? I wonder if those Women even tried to place their Own Daughters in the same situation,,
When something similar happens to us..we blame the People for their Ignorance and Cruelty..we tend to forget how we become the same people for others in the other way round..ruthless and Selfish that we Humans are!
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