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Sunday, February 19, 2012

Expectations To Imperfections and Happniness

Mr.Perfect/Miss.Perfect/Mr.Right,The One.. all represent the same idea.Somebody who has everything that we always desired for,The Perfect Looks, The Perfect Social Status, The Perfect Personality and the List goes on. Admit it or not But we all had Ideals when we were young,and some of us still have those vague images in their mind that they secretly wish to actually find  one day.These Ideals are our Criteria to judge people in our Life,To see if they fit right in those shapes that are being imprinted in our minds,hearts and souls since Long.

It amazes me to see how people just don't realize this,They have this long list of "Haves/HAVE Nowt's" about their Ideal/Desired Partners without knowing they don't have one single things out of that List in themselves.How Ironic yet Common to witness around us.

What I just don't get is why cant people understand that its never about being a perfect person,No one is Perfect in this Whole God Damn World.No one! All are ordinary people with ordinary flaws and shortcomings, just like the ones that we have.What makes a person special for you is not his/her Looks or His/Her Status or His/Her Intellect ..Its just one simple thing! Your affection for that person.Your Love and His/her Love.This is what makes it look like a Perfect Couple.Two Persons with Love burning in their Hearts.


Love is the only thing that can make things work between a couple.Choosing someone as your Life Partner is different in every way.That person does not has to be an Extra-Ordinary Person,All he/she ought to have is the spark that could tell that you will be OK with compromising over his/her short-comings.


Relationships are all about Patience/Sacrifices and your being Open towards that bond.Isn't it? Then Why do we set such hypothetical  standards for others to meet when we are nothing but just one common-faced, ordinary person out there? Why make Life so complicated when we can take it easy! May be it has got to do something with our being some extra mature which makes us some extra choosy and Picky.I have seen people who fear the Unknown and Unseen in their Life like anything,They are people with strained sense of perfection in their Life,They just cant take anything that they did not plan for.They calculate,They count,They Plan,They execute and yet they fail to have what they wanted to have.All they choose to forget  is the presence of Destiny in our Lives.


We cant plan every single thing in our Life,Can We! Destiny takes its Lead in strange ways,it hits us in the most surprising ways of all,strikes so suddenly that we cant even see what hit us! Yet People struggle to plan their Lives according to their little silly rules and at the end of the day these are the same people who are the most unhappy ones around us.What they cant digest is the Biggest Fact of this Universe,That you cant take Lead every time,There is something in this universe which is more powerful then your little will power.Plans Fail miserably,Calculations prove wrong in the most clumsy way ever and something knocks us off the road and we find ourselves in the middle of strange set of circumstances.


They say its not always wise to plan your life,All you can do is make your wish-list or have a desire in your heart and then try to work on it,But there is no way you should be deadly obsessed about it.There always is a fair chance of turning  things in the right opposite direction of what we planned.SO sometimes its just wise to Let Things Go With the Flow.Or just be prepared to see our plans fail right on our Face.Happiness is not the name of Pursuit anyways.Its about being open what you get in your Life.How can we stay happy if we keep on looking back,keep on missing what once was in our Life and keep on ignoring what we have now!


And yes For all those Perfectionists out there,Please be Polite and behave when you meet someone not matching your criteria.Average People have Cute little hearts too..Right?!



40 comments:

  1. I don't know, you are right. But there also goes a saying that when you always insist on getting the best, you get the best.

    sometimes, you wish for someone without the shortcoming you possess because you think they can reform you too.

    nice read,
    Blasphemous Aesthete

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  2. Nice post. There is a thin line, between wishing for and working towards things, and getting obsessed with the same. I guess to most of us, that line is invisible.
    Going with the flow, makes things a lot easier and enjoyable:)

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  3. Great aggressive post to start blogging after your warm up exercise.

    NEVERTHELESS:
    Going with the flow may drown you in the Ocean of troubles.
    For example: Pakistan doesn’t have Mr Perfect, and the masses are going with the “flow of addiction” to corruption and guess what--next is free fall of course.
    In other words, going with the flow means accepting the status quo.
    Surely, to improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.
    Life is full of challenges and problems; is not a bed of roses. Thus, you have to work real hard at it.
    No one is perfect.
    We all make mistakes. It's better not to expect from others--a secret of happiness.
    Beond doubt, real happiness lies in the self contentment. MISHI!
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  4. u chose to write on my fav topic i.e. relationships. I totally agree n know where u r coming from. the match-making process perhaps. people really hav a higher set of values for teh OTHER person tahn for themselves. the qualities taht they don't even have in them- good looks n complexion topping it all.......
    n truly perfect is ONLY wat SUITS u not wat u THINK shud be good.. great post.a nd written very professionally!

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  5. relation and relationship... has come long way by definitions changing every other minute according our own wishes and desires...

    are we sure enough for what we really need,.. if at all we change the looks of our own desire every second being so selfish, i mean how could we expect to be and to get the perfect..

    nice post.. really loved reading it... from the bak bak sweet mishi mishi

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    1. haha..you still remember that Bak Bak post by me!! thats good to know;p

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  6. [Daniyal]
    oh Man, I hate relationships so much. You have to sacrifice yourself, your wishes & your dreams. meh, it's better to stay without relationships in a very distant area where no one knows you.
    [/Daniyal]
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    But be sure not to expect.

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    1. Hello.
      You obviously haven't met the right person yet. When you truly love someone, you will always want that person to be happy. (S)he will be supportive and will encourage you to follow your dreams not put a stop to them. In any relationship, there must be compromise. There is no longer "I", but "we". When we accept that change in balance, it can lead to so much more beauty in the relationship. I am sure when you find that special someone your opinions will change.

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    2. Well, I guess you're right. I hope there comes a time when my opinion changes for the betterment of myself.

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    3. and I wish Daniyal that you find this some one really soon..and I would love to know your feedback over this topic then;p

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  7. You're totally right. It's a waste of time to plan things out, anyways. Just live according to your standards and everything starts falling into place.

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  8. Absolutely. The pursuit of the perfect is so childish and so doomed to failure - and not just in relationships. It is ultimately destructive.

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    1. Every time you visit my Page I feel honored:-)

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  9. Hello Mishi. How are you my dear?
    We live in a world where perfection does not exist, yet there are those among us who wrongly believe they are perfect. Sadly, this diminishes their views and because of their so-called preconceived ideas, they are missing out on love & life. Love does not see color, creed, race or imperfections. Love only sees the heart. A planned life is not really living life....life is about embracing the moment...whatever it may be.
    Thanks for sharing & visiting Mishi. Enjoy the rest of the week!

    Thoughts Of Beauty In The Stillness Of Dawn

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    1. Hello Andy..you are so right about it..love truly is open-minded..

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  10. well... as far as humans are concerned, i have never been the one having any ideals... i am rather a believer in see and click... feel and click person... when i look around at the friends that i have made through the years, i find them very different from one another, and not to mention all the crushes that i have :P

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    1. hahaha yeh not to mention those crushes..I already know the list;p and btw I liked this "See and Click" concept of yours it truly works this way...no matter how well you know a person,at the end of the day,all that matters is weather the person clicks you as far as the chemistry is concerned..at the end of the day we use our intuition to know if the person is right for us..rest is left with our faith on Allah:)

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  11. right mishi!!! truly said. Hope you are doing good. keep writing and sharing =)) and what are you doing now a days?

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    1. Heyloo Sweetie:-)

      em doing good..was busy at home..and em glad you visited..I wish you keep on asking me these sweet little questions..I like you a lot;p

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  12. I know for a fact that there is NO mr. perfect or Ms. perfect .. So god knows what people are going on about ..

    If someone is so perfect then wont they be GOD...
    Its jsut a myth we are humans and we all have some imperfection in us , The fun is to meet someone who does not look at those imperfection but at the good points and then they both live happily ever after :)

    Bikram's

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    2. Yup Sir VikramJit you are right...pray for me to have somebody that I could live happily ever after with;p

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    3. thankoo,,you are sho shaweet..I hope you know this!:-)

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  13. List and plans never work really....if at all they make us more unrealistic and the search more futile. You are quite right in expressing what you do. I always feel there should be one big thing that you look for in that special someone-one thing that is most important to you and then work on the minor details. if you have that ONE the rest becomes easier to accept for nobody fits into the perfect shoes:-)

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    1. I agree!!..with your every word here!

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  14. Mishi,

    Read 2 posts. Nice to see you back. What you say in this post is what we all need to realize and act upon. Instead of looking at imperfections of others, including our partner, we should rather make efforts to overcome our own. Well written.

    Take care

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    1. Hello Uncle Jack..sorry I couldnt write to you..I will now..I had issues with my house net!

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  15. interesting write up. Really liked the last line. You deserve a brownie for that :D haha

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    1. haha.chalo nikalo phir Brownie!

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    2. lay lo nadeedi :P *gives a box of brownies*

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  16. Great work! Real talk :)
    Check my blog too!

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  17. @Blasphemous..Yes i know what you mean here..but you see no one is perfect here..its about relationships..and relationships are different than picking the best things to make your life comfortable..in relationships you got to let go of some of your rules even..its all about give and take..aint it?

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  18. @Aishwarya..em glad you got it exactly the way i was expecting my readers to have this:-)

    @Tariq Miyan..hahahaha yeh and I wonder when will we have this MR.perfect!! akhir kub!!
    I agree with your point here Sir..Happiness is surely not about running after things and people..:-)

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  19. @Catgirl..Hey! yeah I know its your fav topic and your cover it well..I tried it for the first time i guess and em glad you liked it:)

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  20. what a beautiful line and thought - "average" people have cute little hearts too :) well said

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  21. No one is perfect, one can only aspire to be perfect. Loved your last line - "average" people have cute little hearts too.

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